Introducing Alicia Kay Lanier, author of My Unspeakable Loss: A Birthmother’s Memoir About Adoption Secrecy

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Alicia Kay Lanier is a writer and activist who lives in North Texas. She began her writing career as a daily newspaper reporter in Oklahoma and Texas. Since then, she has written about real estate, technology, adoption issues, political topics, and for business and corporate publications. Alicia was editor-writer for the periodical, Adoption Triad Forum ; co-founder and founding president of TxCARE; former board member for Concerned United Birthparents (CUB) and California Open; and presenter at American Adoption Congress (AAC) conferences. She was the first birthmother to serve on the Board of Directors for Hope Cottage Pregnancy and Adoption Center in Dallas, and is editor of the book, Hope, A Collection of Birthfamily Stories, Poems & Letters, which contains Alicia’s essay, An Invisible Tattoo. She spends much of her leisure time with friends and family, especially with her four grandchildren whom she calls her Joy Buttons because of the fun they add to her life. Alicia’s Blog: See reviews at on book page for My Unspeakable Loss

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Book description…

Mother Reveals Saga of Secret Baby Given to Strangers. In 1965, Alicia Kay Lanier finishes her University journalism studies in Texas and embarks on an exciting career as a daily newspaper reporter in another state. She has been raised in a Christian home and she is still a virgin. Alicia quickly finds her new job and friends to be as thrilling as she had expected. But, a few months later, Alicia discovers she is pregnant. The fact that she is unmarried, combined with the recent death of a parent, influences her to give her infant to strangers who want to adopt him. Alicia keeps this baby a secret from her family and friends for over two decades. Alicia later marries and the couple has other children. In the mid-eighties, a series of family crises threatens the family’s serene image and the marriage; the author says: “To family and close friends, my life at age 48 looked pretty good: Longtime marriage, pretty daughters, professional career, lovely home. What they could not see was the marriage was on shaky ground, my daughters were in distress, and I had kept a sad secret for over two decades.” Alicia’s saga includes a nostalgic portrayal of her parents and early family life in addition to intense truth telling about the marital-family dilemmas she encountered while ending secret-keeping. Confronting a closed adoption system, which hides information from all parties involved, Alicia and her daughters persistently search for lost family; that journey has surprising twists and turns and presents new challenges for Alicia and her children in reunion and relationship renewal. Covering several decades, her memoir draws from Alicia’s vivid memories and extensive personal journal and family letters. Written in the style of a contemporary novel, there are flashbacks to Alicia’s years as a teenager learning to deal with the opposite sex and intimacy; her life as a daily newspaper reporter in Oklahoma and Texas; reflections about her months living in a “home for unwed mothers;” meditation on the shame and grief felt by birthmothers of the closed adoption era; and Alicia’s evolution into being a writer and advocate for adoptee rights and other issues; and more. See reviews at on book page for My Unspeakable Loss. Alicia’s Blog:

Introducing the lovely Lester Joseph, author of Misdemeanor and Paternity

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Lester Joseph is a native of Salt Lake City, Utah and is currently working another book about being a Distant Father.

Product description…

Betrayal, Lies, Adoption and a Father’s Parental Rights

A true case of injustice: This book does a great job of illustrating the problems of reporting domestic violence. It gives you an understanding how unjust our judicial system actually is and the wide spread of the falsely accused that have been going on in our society. James was accused by Betty Jo of assault and he was innocent of any crimes. She accused him of assault because she was unhappy with him for finding out that she was planning on giving their baby up for adoption. James found some emails that Betty Jo had sent to the couple that she had selected to adopt their baby and emails that she had sent to an adoption agency. He also filed a paternity suit when she was five months pregnant, because he did not want his child to be given up for adoption. Without any help from legal aid or a Pro Bono attorney and being unable to afford and retain a family law attorney, he had no choice, but to act as his own legal representative in the suit and at the same time fight the assault charge that Betty Jo had filed against him. With the charge against him, James fought for his innocence with great uncertainty and doubt because he knew that he might lose his parental rights as the father. He had to defend himself in front of four different judges and with three different legal defenders at his side. In the midst of the criminal courts and mediation for parentage, James lost his full legal and physical custody to Betty Jo. Meanwhile, Betty Jo had changed her mind and decided to keep his child after the birth. After two years of mental anguish and going to trial, the assault charge against him was dismissed. The suffering James had gone through as a result of fighting the assault charge was lessened, but then increased as Betty Jo moved thousands of miles away and took his daughter with her. This move left him and his daughter separated miles apart, as though she was adopted as planned. This book was written based on true events, the names and identifying details of the characters have been changed.